Managing the Discomfort of Fear
Fear. When it’s present, it consumes me. It can paralyze a person and make her stagnate for years. That’s how I feel sometimes. It affects me in so many areas of my life. Fear of pain – my physical wellbeing. Fear of rejection – my self-esteem. Fear of loss – my sense of fulfillment. Fear is a perception of what could happen based on an experience or story we’ve been told. It’s supposed to remind us to be cautious around the dangers of the world. But if the belief in our fears become too strong, it can prevent us from taking risks. If we don’t allow ourselves to take risks, we’ll never know what we’re capable of and what our true potential is. Lately, I’ve been challenging my fear. Facing it head on. Since I was a little girl, I have been deathly afraid of heights. My earliest memory of this fear was on a trip to the... read more ❯
Become A Better Leader by Traveling More!
Experience is very important in life, it’s often what we look back on. This not only helps us to advance but also provide us a chance to grow in a better way. However, it is a common practice that when we are following our dreams we forget to take a break. That might be a positive sign to some extent but it will eventually show the side effects as well. To avoid the many side effects, it is important to take a break from the workplace and arrange a trip for yourself. It is paramount as a leader to stop, to unplug, and to simply enjoy the experience of traveling. Issues for not taking a break In case you are looking for a sign, this is it. Here are some of the issues that you will start to face, if you do not get away to travel or take a short break away... read more ❯
Are Your Thoughts Making You Sick?
Your physical health (good or bad) may be a direct result of the various conflicts you have had throughout your lifetime, along with your reaction to them. There is a lot of knowledge that supports this claim. The best example of this view comes from the work of Dr. Geerd Hamer. His work has taken the widespread notion that your emotions influence your health and well-being. Even the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention say that 85 percent of diseases have an emotional element. A study published by the American Journal of Preventative Medicine also supported this view when it found a strong relationship between the number of childhood traumas and the number of health risk factors for leading causes of death in adults. The article continued to show there was a significant link between the number of childhood trauma events and the following conditions: Heart disease Cancer Chronic bronchitis or emphysema ... read more ❯
REVIEW: Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss
To understand this review you first need to understand that I am a whole-life coach who places a strong focus on career. I spend a lot of time helping clients discover a job doing something they will love, and if what they love isn’t in line with their values (like what they want to make financially or to be able to support their family) we then focus on learning to love any job. Another part of what I do is client performance, helping clients to become an “achiever” and an “accomplisher” of things. This is important to understand why I have taken the position I have on this book. Please know, like all things, this is my opinion and you should make your own assessment of Tim Ferriss’s book. After picking up the revised Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss I was excited to see what all of my clients had been talking about (and... read more ❯
New Years Goals, Take 'Em or Leave 'Em?
Only 8% of people achieve their New Years Goals, according to StatisticBrain and yet 45% of people usually make a New Years resolution. So why bother? With only 8% of people fully accomplishing their New Years goals it is very discouraging to even want to bother. However, we know that goal setting can be important to experiencing clarity and achievement in your life. So instead of avoiding goal setting or not doing it, consider taking a different approach to it. It’s not about motivation? Many people think that achieving goals is about having will power and motivation; however, this is completely not true. Motivation is an emotion, what is required are small achievable steps that produce a dopamine response. Essentially, having a list of easy to achieve steps that can be done or worked on nearly daily, things that you can do and cross or check off a list, will provide a dopamine response.... read more ❯
If you are in the business of sales – you will fall into the same trap!
Buyers have evolved and are hyper-educated. Even before connecting with a salesperson, they have spent a copious number of hours researching product and service offerings, getting a general idea of options. Although the buyer’s role has changed to being more informed, salespeople have not adapted their selling approach. For any business to be successful, its sales approach must evolve as well. When you think about the car salesperson, what comes to mind? Right; friendly, caring, and trustworthy. Clearly, I am being facetious. A survey by DMEautomotive (DMEa) of car buyers, suggested only 21% claimed they perceive them [salespeople] as “trustworthy,” a lower trust rating than reported for lawyers, mortgage brokers and insurance salespeople. Why is that? Could it be because they come from a tradition of high pressure sales? Perhaps, that their focus is still on “closing” the customer? “This avoidance of physical dealerships is in stark contrast with how much online... read more ❯
Happy Freaking Holidays – 4 Tips on Surviving Family Holiday Gatherings
The holidays offer plenty of reasons to be stressed out and anxious… the gifts you haven’t bought yet, the wrapping to be done, the pile of cookies, the cards to be mailed, the office parties. But for many, the biggest source of holiday stress is family… the family dinner, the obligations, and the burden of family traditions. “There is an idea that holiday gatherings with family are supposed to be joyful and stress free,” says Dr. Ken Duckworth, MD, medical director, National Centre for Mental Health. “That’s not always the case. Family relationships are complicated. But that doesn’t mean that the solution is to skip the holidays entirely.” With holiday family reunions looming in your calendar, what are some of the ways that you can prepare yourself and cope better this season? I have found some helpful tips on coping with challenging family events. 1. Make a Plan! “The most reliable way to predict... read more ❯
The Secret To Having More Energy
As the Holiday Season approaches, with all of the hustle and bustle and long “To Do” lists, we may start feeling overwhelmed and run down wondering where we will find the energy to get it all done! The following article by writer Elizabeth Gilbert (author of “Eat, Pray, Love”) gives us some insight into where our “energy leaks” are and how to gain access to the power that is already within us! THE SECRET TO HAVING MORE ENERGY! Dear Ones – My whole life, I've defined myself as a low-energy person. For years, I would have told you that I get run-down easily, and I've always needed about 10 hours of sleep a day to get by. (8 hours is minimum, but 10 is ideal.) I would have told you that I am susceptible to every cold and virus out there, and that, on a group trip, I will for sure be the first... read more ❯
How Do I Help Someone Who Hates Their Job or Was Laid Off?
Listen using the above player, or read the transcript below. How do I help someone who gets laid off or hates their line of work? Hello my name is Christopher Lawrence. I’m a career and Whole Life Coach with Change My Life Coaching. I’m going to give you one example of a client who actually meets both of these situations. Kim came to me in her early 20’s, she was in her first career in a not for profit organization. Her area of speciality was communications and marketing. She was pretty unhappy with her job and regretted her degree. Kim and I worked together for about 6 months. Being millennial her expectations were quite high, and to feel significant is important to the millennial generation. So what I mean by that is millennials want to know they’re contributing to something meaningful, they don’t want to do work just for work sake.... read more ❯
How Do I Help Someone Who Isn’t Succeeding?
Listen using the above player, or read the transcript below. How do I help someone who doesn’t feel like they’re succeeding in most of their life? Hello my name is Christopher Lawrence. I’m a career and whole life coach with Change My Life Coaching, and I’m going to give you an example of this. I’m going to talk about Luke. Luke was 36 years old when he came to me, and was in a job that was very unstable. It was project work, it was cyclical, and as a result of that they ended up laying off a good chunk of the company, every 6 months. Luke had been told most of his life that he was lazy. Luke is diabetic and was overweight, didn’t have many friends, and was missing some basic life skills like budgeting, and house cleaning skills. Initially when Luke came to me I couldn’t get... read more ❯